So am I. That's why I started writing realsocialskills.org a few years ago. Social skills really do exist, and they're not about fading powerlessly into the background. Real social skills are about learning effective and ethical ways to interact with other people.
Noncompliance is one of the most important social skills. Noncompliance skills make it possible to say no, even when others want your right to say no to be entirely hypothetical. Noncompliance skills also make it possible to say yes, and do things you care about, even when others don’t think those things are worthwhile. Noncompliance also means paying attention to your own thoughts, even when you're around people who expect you to agree with their emphatic opinions. When other people try to take over, it is possible to hold on to yourself and make choices. Noncompliance is a social skill, and it gets easier with practice.
(Image description of the shirt: The main text is "noncompliance is a social skill". under that smaller text says "realsocialskills.org". The shirt is dark grey and the text is white.)